{"id":764,"date":"2009-11-26T11:07:59","date_gmt":"2009-11-26T18:07:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.laurenwood.org\/anyway\/?p=764"},"modified":"2009-11-26T11:07:59","modified_gmt":"2009-11-26T18:07:59","slug":"coping-with-a-strong-willed-child","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.laurenwood.org\/anyway\/2009\/11\/coping-with-a-strong-willed-child\/","title":{"rendered":"Coping With a Strong-Willed Child"},"content":{"rendered":"

One of the unfore\u00adseen advant\u00adages of hav\u00ading an Amazon affil\u00adi\u00adate account is the pos\u00adit\u00adive loop it intro\u00adduces. In this par\u00adtic\u00adu\u00adlar case, I reviewed books about rais\u00ading chil\u00addren, people clicked on the links, they bought oth\u00ader books from Amazon that showed up in my reports, I looked at those books, etc. I call it a multi-level recom\u00admend\u00ada\u00adtion ser\u00advice; I\u2019m sure there are more \u201coffi\u00adcial\u201d names for it.<\/p>\n

Any\u00adway, in this par\u00adtic\u00adu\u00adlar case someone bought Par\u00adent\u00ading the Strong-Willed Child: The Clin\u00adic\u00adally Proven Five-Week Pro\u00adgram for Par\u00adents of Two- to Six-Year-Olds<\/a>, and since my daugh\u00adter is strong-willed (much more so than her broth\u00ader at that age), I thought I\u2019d take a look. I also ordered When Your Child Has a Strong-Willed Per\u00adson\u00adal\u00adity<\/a> from the lib\u00adrary and read both the books at more or less the same time. <\/p>\n

Par\u00aden\u00adthet\u00adic\u00adal note: are there ever a lot of books out there on how to cope with strong-willed children! <\/p>\n

Both the books have anecdotal\/illustrative examples, which mostly served to make me grate\u00adful for my child. After that, the books have the same basic ideas at the core, but go about the mes\u00adsage in dif\u00adfer\u00adent ways.<\/p>\n

The \u201cclin\u00adic\u00adal pro\u00adgram\u201d book has an actu\u00adal pro\u00adgram in it that you\u2019re meant to fol\u00adlow, which con\u00adsists of spend\u00ading 10 minutes each day doing the pro\u00adgram for that week, before start\u00ading the next week on the next phase. This would prob\u00adably be use\u00adful if there is a ser\u00adi\u00adous prob\u00adlem; con\u00addens\u00ading the pro\u00adgram and com\u00adbin\u00ading steps worked out fine for us. The first step is simply pay\u00ading atten\u00adtion to what the child is doing for those 10 minutes: no ques\u00adtions, no orders, just say\u00ading \u201cnow you\u2019re stack\u00ading the red blocks\u201d \u201cnow you\u2019re col\u00adour\u00ading with blue cray\u00adon\u201d. The \u201cdo you want to try\u2026\u201d etc comes later, after you and the child have got used to the idea of your pay\u00ading atten\u00adtion to what the child is actu\u00adally doing rather than what you think they should be doing, for that small amount of time. Per\u00adson\u00adally I think this is the most import\u00adant step \u2014 it\u2019s so easy as a par\u00adent to get into the \u201cnow we have to do this\u201d, even if it\u2019s under the guise of encour\u00adaging the child to do things \u201cprop\u00aderly\u201d, and fail to take the time to pay atten\u00adtion to what\u2019s really hap\u00adpen\u00ading. The oth\u00ader steps in the pro\u00adgram are also reas\u00adon\u00adable, noth\u00ading stu\u00adpendously dif\u00adfer\u00adent to what oth\u00ader books say.<\/p>\n

The \u201cstrong-willed per\u00adson\u00adal\u00adity\u201d book is more gen\u00ader\u00adal and does not come with a 5\u2011week pro\u00adgram, so is likely less reas\u00adsur\u00ading if you have a ser\u00adi\u00adous prob\u00adlem. It points out strongly that the worst prob\u00adlems come with a strong-willed child and a strong-willed par\u00adent bat\u00adtling and advoc\u00adates the par\u00adent to not quibble over small issues, but to seek ways to defuse poten\u00adtial situ\u00adations, and let every\u00adone save face. <\/p>\n

Both books coun\u00adsel kind\u00adness and respect for the child\u2019s point of view as ways to defuse con\u00adflict, and give meth\u00adods or tips to help. Vari\u00adations on some of the tech\u00adniques would prob\u00adably also help with deal\u00ading with co-workers.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

One of the unfore\u00adseen advant\u00adages of hav\u00ading an Amazon affil\u00adi\u00adate account is the pos\u00adit\u00adive loop it intro\u00adduces. In this par\u00adtic\u00adu\u00adlar case, I reviewed books about rais\u00ading chil\u00addren, people clicked on the links, they bought oth\u00ader books from Amazon that showed up in my reports, I looked at those books, etc. I call it a multi-level \u2026 Con\u00adtin\u00adue read\u00ading \u201cCop\u00ading With a Strong-Willed Child\u201d<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"wp_typography_post_enhancements_disabled":false,"activitypub_content_warning":"","activitypub_content_visibility":"","activitypub_max_image_attachments":3,"activitypub_interaction_policy_quote":"","activitypub_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[7,14],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-764","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-books","category-family"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.laurenwood.org\/anyway\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/764","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.laurenwood.org\/anyway\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.laurenwood.org\/anyway\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.laurenwood.org\/anyway\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.laurenwood.org\/anyway\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=764"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/www.laurenwood.org\/anyway\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/764\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":769,"href":"https:\/\/www.laurenwood.org\/anyway\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/764\/revisions\/769"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.laurenwood.org\/anyway\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=764"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.laurenwood.org\/anyway\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=764"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.laurenwood.org\/anyway\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=764"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}