The next part of an occasional series on what we found to be useful with a baby. I’ve noticed a few people coming to this site with searches on baby stuff, so here’s some more!
Standard lists for what you need for a baby always seem a little too prescriptive to me; “thou shalt have 6 sleepers and 4 bottles and .…” I’m not going to give numbers for the simple reason that it all depends on your baby and how you do things. If you do laundry every day, you don’t need as many clothes, unless your baby spits up a lot, in which case you need as many as you can get. Etc.
So what do you need?
Somewhere for the baby to sleep. To start with, this can be a nice bassinet, or a cardboard box, the baby won’t really care. I’ve heard that car seats aren’t good for their heads if they sleep in them all the time, but if that’s where your baby is happy, I wouldn’t worry about it too much. Eventually they need a crib or cot that’s bigger and stronger and that they can’t roll out of, but that can wait until they’re two or three months old. We always had the baby sleep in our room to start with as well, for the simple reason that it’s easier to get up and change them, feed them, and put them back down, if they’re close by. Also, I found that I woke up quite quickly and could feed the baby without it really waking up properly, so it tended to go back to sleep readily after eating. This may just be because both our babies were good sleepers, of course, but Penelope Leach’s book also seems to think there’s something to this theory of getting them up when they just start crying so they don’t get too upset. Once they’re older, things are different as they can last longer without food, but it seems to work for the little babies.
Some clothes for the baby: comfortable ones to sleep in, and maybe something that looks a little nicer to go out and be shown off in. People often give you clothes, in huge quantities, which come in really handy when your baby spits up a lot (see above) or you don’t have time to do laundry every day.
Receiving blankets, which are basically pieces of soft cloth such as flannelette that vary in size, anywhere from about 24″ x 24″ (65cm x 65cm) to 36″ x 36″ (1m x 1m) or so; they can be square or rectangular. These are really useful, for swaddling tiny babies (our first child loved this, our second didn’t), as light blankets, as spit-up or burp clothes (the things labelled “burp clothes” in most stores are too small to be useful for anything other than night-time nursing pads), as change pads, as makeshift bibs, as sun screens, as mats in the bath, as washcloths, and as clothes if you’re really desperate and everything else is dirty or wet. They have the added bonus of being useful afterwards, unlike a lot of baby apparatus — they’re great for washing windows, dusting and polishing furniture, applying stain, or anywhere else you need a soft, lint-free cloth. And believe me, they will be lint-free by the time the baby has outgrown needing them with being washed so often.
If you’re bottle-feeding, you’ll need that apparatus. Ours didn’t take bottles, so I have no idea what is useful for bottle-feeding.
We never used baby powder (couldn’t see the point) or pacifiers/dummies (first child spat it out across the room, never needed to try with the second).
Coming in a future post: thoughts on slings/baby carriers, baby monitors, pumps.
During a trip to the National Storytelling Festival, our then-4-month-old daughter slept in an open drawer in the rented room we were staying in. Unusual, maybe, but really very suitable.
Very handy list, I look forward to your thoughts on the baby monitor. Right now we’re only getting in the minimum kit and then relying on the 24-hour supermarket a couple of miles away for any last minute items
As far as sleeping gear goes: For our daugther we got a futon combo from Japanese friends. It is essetially a flat futon (baby size) and a very heavy blanket. You can put that into a baby bed or on the floor — it does not really matter. The nice thing about this futon set is that you can roll it up and take it very easily everywhere, so the baby does not have to adjust to a new bedding every time you travel.
Great list, I agree. Never thought my XML based blogroll would be offering me advice on babies…
We also found that some terry nappy squares were excellent. They’re really not as hard to use as people make out they are, and they come in immensely handy when our shaped washable nappies run out.
JohnC, I’ve heard the baby in the drawer idea before, I guess if the drawer has an edge that isn’t level with the base, you can make it level with a towel or two underneath when you take the drawer out and put it on the floor. At least as long as the baby isn’t too heavy, anyway.
Edd, I’ll do the baby monitor post next in this series (although I have a couple of other posts I need to do first).
Gerry, good idea with the futon.
JohnS, I guess it just goes to show that XML people have many interests. We use disposables when we run out of the cloth nappies/diapers but I think I’ll throw a couple of terry squares in the bag per your suggestion.
Thanks!
Mylicon. Simple, effective, harmless.
Actually, we didn’t take the drawer out, though we did of course leave it open. She wasn’t going to move it, after all, nor was there any risk of it tipping over — we tested.
And now the daughter in question is having her own baby in a few days, and in two weeks is going on an overnight trip, and I’m trying to talk her into the baby-in-the-drawer idea as opposed to lugging a folding crib. So far no luck.