A friend in England got married, so I decided to knit her a cushion. Herewith the pictures, and the pattern, for those readers of my blog interested in my knitting posts.
Category: Hobbies
Hobbies such as knitting, crochet, house renovation, gardening, reading
Henry VIII’s Wives
Here’s a review of Antonia Fraser’s The Wives of Henry VIII (there also seems to be an updated version, The Six Wives of Henry VIII (Women in History)), which the bookclub picked, partially because I’d read it before and thought it was interesting, partially because most of the bookclub members knew a little about that period but not much and wanted to learn more, and partially because one bookclub member will read anything and everything about the Tudors. Everyone enjoyed the book, but with some caveats.
To go with it, I read Alison Weir’s Henry VIII: The King and His Court. Reading both books at much the same time was good, I found they complemented each other and helped me understand more of what was going on.
The Henry VIII book mostly concentrates on the King himself, what he was like as a young man (incredibly gifted, handsome, and strong, if the records are all to be believed), how the court functioned, what all the people around the King were meant to do, how much things cost, what the fashions of the time were. It then goes into the King’s life, and how, to quote Alison Weir, Henry began his reign in a mediaeval kingdom, he ended it in a modern state
. I found the first part of the book to be the most interesting, perhaps because I got rather lost with all the people who kept changing names as they were promoted and demoted, and the King himself became less sympathetic as he became more dictatorial and averse to being crossed.
The Wives book (and Alison Weir has also written one on that subject, which I haven’t read) concentrates on the wives themselves, their personalities and their histories. Antonia Fraser, unlike Alison Weir, generally uses the same name to describe the same person through the book, which makes following along who did what when much easier. I also found her family trees to be of more use. She brings up a lot of interesting points about the expectations placed on women in those times, that people genuinely believed that Henry ruled by divine right (which makes it easier to understand some of what happened), and that Henry towards the end of his life was driven by the need for a male heir (ironically) and saw his daughters, just like his sister, as pawns to be used to prop up his kingdom by means of alliances. Even though Henry saw that his own marriages should also be useful (politically and religiously), he had a great talent for convincing himself that God wanted him to do what he wanted to do anyway and thus he could always convince himself that the woman who currently attracted him was the one he had to marry.
It’s interesting to note the differences in the books. Alison Weir is obviously a fan of Catherine of Aragon, and doesn’t much like Anne Boleyn. Antonia Fraser is sympathetic to Catherine, but seems to admire Anne, despite her sharp tongue and lack of discretion. They both sympathize with Henry’s predicament, though not with how he chose to solve it.
The main problem with both books is that there is a lot of detail, and they mostly seem to be aimed at an audience that already knows something of the era and the people involved. So those of us who didn’t study history at school in England are at a bit of a disadvantage. Overall, however, both books are worth reading, you might just need to have some reference material at hand (or be prepared to skim a bit in the long confusing passages).
Thank You
To the anonymous reader of my blog who bought books on Amazon using my associates link, thank you! Not so much for the few cents it brought me but for the fact that it means you thought enough of what I wrote to check out the books and spend your own money to get a couple of them. I appreciate the faith you’ve shown in my opinion (bolstered, one hopes, by the opinions of the other reviewers).
Stumbling on Happiness
Daniel Gilbert’s Stumbling on Happiness is rightly popular (I had to wait some time before it became available at the local library). Despite the title, it’s not one of these “seven steps to real happiness” books. It’s more a book that tells you why people’s expectations of what will or should make them happy are often misplaced. Lots of interesting bits of information about how the mind works, and what it does and doesn’t do, which explained a lot to me. A couple of examples: why is it that when you take a photo of something, and then try to remember it, all you get is a mental image of the photo you took? Why is it that the ending of a movie has a larger effect on what you think about the movie than a random piece in the middle? All fascinating stuff and well worth reading if you want to understand why people do some of the things they do and think the way they do.
Which is not to say I don’t have quibbles with the book, I do, but those are minor. And mostly in the last chapter, where I wonder whether some of the surveys he quotes would have had different results had they been carried out in other countries or other cultures.
In all, I recommend reading this book if you’re at all interested in what makes people tick. Whether you agree with all the points he makes or not, it certainly will make you think about your own behaviour, and give you explanations for others’ behaviour that you may not have come up with otherwise.
Sleeping Babies
We’ve had problems with getting the baby (now 10 months) to sleep properly during the day, and when she also started waking more often during the night I decided I had to figure out an answer. Our first child slept readily, took schedule variations in his stride, and so it was a big shock when our second child was completely different. We tried putting her on various routines, but couldn’t find one that worked until recently (yay! sleep!). Given that lots of searches on my blog are about how to get babies to sleep, and the vast number of books out there on the subject, I figure some other people might be interested in the subject. The rest of you will undoubtedly have already tuned out by now.
I got heaps of books out of the library, but can only recommend two. Some of the books seemed to be written along the lines of “this worked for me, I don’t know why, maybe it will work for you too” and personally I prefer an approach that has a little more research to it. I’m not going to talk about the books I read and didn’t like since other people may find them useful; I’m just going to review the two books I liked best.
If your baby is young, you could try The Happiest Baby on the Block: The New Way to Calm Crying and Help Your Baby Sleep Longer, which looked like it had some useful tips. I wouldn’t bother with it if your baby is more than about 6 months old though.
The book I liked a lot, and even bought, is Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, which contains a lot of information, including some research into how long children sleep at various ages, a strict routine (which really suits our baby but wouldn’t have been necessary for our first child), and discussions about what to do as the child gets older in terms of changing the sleep and nap routine. A lot of people may find the advice to let the baby cry harsh — you do have to be able to recognise the various types of cry your baby makes so you can respond to fear or discomfort while ignoring the baby when she’s annoyed. It worked very well for us (at least so far and we’ve been on the schedule for a week) and we not only have our happy baby back, I’m also catching up on sleep. Getting up at 6:30 am every morning is a bit of a change, but not being woken up at 11 pm, 2 am, and 5 am more than makes up for it.
Knitting is Serious Business
Apparently there’s a group of nuns in hiding after their knitting business went bust; they are even said to have mortgaged a monastery to finance their efforts to keep up with the latest fashions in knitting design. More on the story in Nuns on the Run (link from whip up).
On first reading it’s funny; then I found it sad that their attempt to (I assume) give the monastery a sound financial footing went so astray. So often these attempts by monasteries to finance themselves by selling wine, beer, or other comestibles is lauded to the hilt — were these women pressured to replicate those successes? It’s no surprise if monastery businesses fail just like other businesses do, of course, but somehow I suspect the consequences are different.