Henry VIII’s Wives

Here’s a review of Ant­o­nia Fraser’s The Wives of Henry VIII (there also seems to be an updated ver­sion, The Six Wives of Henry VIII (Women in His­tory)), which the book­club picked, par­tially because I’d read it before and thought it was inter­est­ing, par­tially because most of the book­club mem­bers knew a little about that peri­od but not much and wanted to learn more, and par­tially because one book­club mem­ber will read any­thing and everything about the Tudors. Every­one enjoyed the book, but with some caveats.

To go with it, I read Alis­on Weir’s Henry VIII: The King and His Court. Read­ing both books at much the same time was good, I found they com­ple­men­ted each oth­er and helped me under­stand more of what was going on.

The Henry VIII book mostly con­cen­trates on the King him­self, what he was like as a young man (incred­ibly gif­ted, hand­some, and strong, if the records are all to be believed), how the court func­tioned, what all the people around the King were meant to do, how much things cost, what the fash­ions of the time were. It then goes into the King’s life, and how, to quote Alis­on Weir, Henry began his reign in a medi­aev­al king­dom, he ended it in a mod­ern state. I found the first part of the book to be the most inter­est­ing, per­haps because I got rather lost with all the people who kept chan­ging names as they were pro­moted and demoted, and the King him­self became less sym­path­et­ic as he became more dic­tat­ori­al and averse to being crossed.

The Wives book (and Alis­on Weir has also writ­ten one on that sub­ject, which I haven’t read) con­cen­trates on the wives them­selves, their per­son­al­it­ies and their his­tor­ies. Ant­o­nia Fraser, unlike Alis­on Weir, gen­er­ally uses the same name to describe the same per­son through the book, which makes fol­low­ing along who did what when much easi­er. I also found her fam­ily trees to be of more use. She brings up a lot of inter­est­ing points about the expect­a­tions placed on women in those times, that people genu­inely believed that Henry ruled by divine right (which makes it easi­er to under­stand some of what happened), and that Henry towards the end of his life was driv­en by the need for a male heir (iron­ic­ally) and saw his daugh­ters, just like his sis­ter, as pawns to be used to prop up his king­dom by means of alli­ances. Even though Henry saw that his own mar­riages should also be use­ful (polit­ic­ally and reli­giously), he had a great tal­ent for con­vin­cing him­self that God wanted him to do what he wanted to do any­way and thus he could always con­vince him­self that the woman who cur­rently attrac­ted him was the one he had to marry.

It’s inter­est­ing to note the dif­fer­ences in the books. Alis­on Weir is obvi­ously a fan of Cath­er­ine of Aragon, and does­n’t much like Anne Boleyn. Ant­o­nia Fraser is sym­path­et­ic to Cath­er­ine, but seems to admire Anne, des­pite her sharp tongue and lack of dis­cre­tion. They both sym­path­ize with Henry’s pre­dic­a­ment, though not with how he chose to solve it.

The main prob­lem with both books is that there is a lot of detail, and they mostly seem to be aimed at an audi­ence that already knows some­thing of the era and the people involved. So those of us who did­n’t study his­tory at school in Eng­land are at a bit of a dis­ad­vant­age. Over­all, how­ever, both books are worth read­ing, you might just need to have some ref­er­ence mater­i­al at hand (or be pre­pared to skim a bit in the long con­fus­ing passages).

Thank You

To the anonym­ous read­er of my blog who bought books on Amazon using my asso­ci­ates link, thank you! Not so much for the few cents it brought me but for the fact that it means you thought enough of what I wrote to check out the books and spend your own money to get a couple of them. I appre­ci­ate the faith you’ve shown in my opin­ion (bolstered, one hopes, by the opin­ions of the oth­er reviewers).

Stumbling on Happiness

Daniel Gil­ber­t’s Stum­bling on Hap­pi­ness is rightly pop­u­lar (I had to wait some time before it became avail­able at the loc­al lib­rary). Des­pite the title, it’s not one of these “sev­en steps to real hap­pi­ness” books. It’s more a book that tells you why people’s expect­a­tions of what will or should make them happy are often mis­placed. Lots of inter­est­ing bits of inform­a­tion about how the mind works, and what it does and does­n’t do, which explained a lot to me. A couple of examples: why is it that when you take a photo of some­thing, and then try to remem­ber it, all you get is a men­tal image of the photo you took? Why is it that the end­ing of a movie has a lar­ger effect on what you think about the movie than a ran­dom piece in the middle? All fas­cin­at­ing stuff and well worth read­ing if you want to under­stand why people do some of the things they do and think the way they do.

Which is not to say I don’t have quibbles with the book, I do, but those are minor. And mostly in the last chapter, where I won­der wheth­er some of the sur­veys he quotes would have had dif­fer­ent res­ults had they been car­ried out in oth­er coun­tries or oth­er cultures. 

In all, I recom­mend read­ing this book if you’re at all inter­ested in what makes people tick. Wheth­er you agree with all the points he makes or not, it cer­tainly will make you think about your own beha­viour, and give you explan­a­tions for oth­ers’ beha­viour that you may not have come up with otherwise. 

Sleeping Babies

We’ve had prob­lems with get­ting the baby (now 10 months) to sleep prop­erly dur­ing the day, and when she also star­ted wak­ing more often dur­ing the night I decided I had to fig­ure out an answer. Our first child slept read­ily, took sched­ule vari­ations in his stride, and so it was a big shock when our second child was com­pletely dif­fer­ent. We tried put­ting her on vari­ous routines, but could­n’t find one that worked until recently (yay! sleep!). Giv­en that lots of searches on my blog are about how to get babies to sleep, and the vast num­ber of books out there on the sub­ject, I fig­ure some oth­er people might be inter­ested in the sub­ject. The rest of you will undoubtedly have already tuned out by now.

I got heaps of books out of the lib­rary, but can only recom­mend two. Some of the books seemed to be writ­ten along the lines of “this worked for me, I don’t know why, maybe it will work for you too” and per­son­ally I prefer an approach that has a little more research to it. I’m not going to talk about the books I read and did­n’t like since oth­er people may find them use­ful; I’m just going to review the two books I liked best.

If your baby is young, you could try The Hap­pi­est Baby on the Block: The New Way to Calm Cry­ing and Help Your Baby Sleep Longer, which looked like it had some use­ful tips. I would­n’t both­er with it if your baby is more than about 6 months old though.

The book I liked a lot, and even bought, is Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, which con­tains a lot of inform­a­tion, includ­ing some research into how long chil­dren sleep at vari­ous ages, a strict routine (which really suits our baby but would­n’t have been neces­sary for our first child), and dis­cus­sions about what to do as the child gets older in terms of chan­ging the sleep and nap routine. A lot of people may find the advice to let the baby cry harsh — you do have to be able to recog­nise the vari­ous types of cry your baby makes so you can respond to fear or dis­com­fort while ignor­ing the baby when she’s annoyed. It worked very well for us (at least so far and we’ve been on the sched­ule for a week) and we not only have our happy baby back, I’m also catch­ing up on sleep. Get­ting up at 6:30 am every morn­ing is a bit of a change, but not being woken up at 11 pm, 2 am, and 5 am more than makes up for it.

Knitting is Serious Business

Appar­ently there’s a group of nuns in hid­ing after their knit­ting busi­ness went bust; they are even said to have mort­gaged a mon­as­tery to fin­ance their efforts to keep up with the latest fash­ions in knit­ting design. More on the story in Nuns on the Run (link from whip up).

On first read­ing it’s funny; then I found it sad that their attempt to (I assume) give the mon­as­tery a sound fin­an­cial foot­ing went so astray. So often these attempts by mon­as­ter­ies to fin­ance them­selves by selling wine, beer, or oth­er comest­ibles is lauded to the hilt — were these women pres­sured to rep­lic­ate those suc­cesses? It’s no sur­prise if mon­as­tery busi­nesses fail just like oth­er busi­nesses do, of course, but some­how I sus­pect the con­sequences are different.